本研究旨在瞭解在祖父母協助托育孫兒的決定過程中,二代之間的權力運作憑藉消長
的情形,以及二代間界限聯盟的運作情 本研究的研究參與者共有六位,其中兩對分別是
婆媳,另外一對是母女關係.在研究方法上,透過深度訪談的方式分別對每一位研究參與者
搜集 托育決定過程 的相關資料,再依結構學派的觀點分別分析三對研究參與者彼此權力
界限 聯盟的關係. 研究結果發現如下:一 父系家族的優先權,長輩的權威以及男女分
工的角色,使得在托育決定上,第一代在托育決定上仍有其優先權,婆婆成為最有權力的人,
但第二代也並非完全被動的接受.二 家族內仍傾向形成與外人有別的互助團體,家族內
有著較鬆散的界限,托育的決定不完全被視為新家庭單獨的責任,這也強化了義務的 觀
點,甚至社會文化賦予婆婆帶孫的義務觀被延續,有能力的婆婆反成為環境下的被決定者,
無權不帶.三 育被視為家庭內的事,女人的事,相對於男人在托育決定的不主動,女性仍被
期待是托育較為主要的負責人,然而第二代女性在使夫婦 方雙方共同參與托育決定上,
較第一代更為積極的.四 女兒(媳婦)是更謹慎於文化規範下的父系優先的順序,往往文化
的影響,更勝過個人期待由自己媽媽托育的意念.因此,若能再次和自己 媽媽建立合作的
關係,彼此就有著鬆散的界限,與婆媳間清楚乃至僵硬的界限便很不相同.五 二代的互動上
會透過關係較親近的家庭成員,以便能順利的和關係較遠離的成員做聯繫,而互動的方式又
強化了彼此原有的關係.六 第二代的夫婦聯盟仍是家庭中穩固的次系統,原有的親子聯盟-
-特別是母親和兒子--仍然維持,但並不絕對影響新家庭的運作.親子聯? 或夫婦聯盟不
確定的情況,組成聯盟的成員就容易擔心自身的聯盟關係會受到其他聯盟的威脅,而產生不
安感,特別在媳婦身上更是如此. 本研究針對研究結果加以討論,並提供未來相關研究
諮商輔導的領域參考之用.

The purpose of this study was to understand the power, boundary and allian
cebetween grandparents and parents when they want to decide who's going to nur
turethe new born baby. The participants were two pairs of mother in-law and
daughter in-law,and onepair of mother and daughter.In-depth interview was ado
pted to collect data, anddata was analyzed from the opinion of structural fami
ly therapy.THE main findingswere as follows: 1.The paternal priority,elder
authority and traditional sexual role made thefirst generation have more vanta
ge,and mother in-law is the most powerful personto make the decision, however
the second generation was not totally passive. 2.The family kindred tended
to be a cooperative group,and in the kindred ,family members'boundaries were m
ore diffuse.Parents weren't both responsible fornurturing the baby, and such a
situation also strengthen grandmother's duty totake care of grandchildren,and
she wouldn't say NO. 3.The responsibility to take care of the children(gra
ndchildren)belonged towomen who were expected to have more responsibility for
taking care of children.The woman of second generation was more active than th
e first generation to letspouse make the decision together. 4.Daughter in-l
aw pay more attention to the paternal priority belonging tothe culture.The eff
ect of culture is more powerful then personal expectancy.Daughter in-law would
think about mother in-law's opinion first.Thus, if motherand daughter could c
ooperate again, the boundary between them would be morediffuse than that betwe
en mother in-law and daughter in-law. 5.The interaction between two generat
ions would be connected and maintainedby the closed family member,therefore,th
e way of interaction would be continuedin the original way. 6.In the second
generation,the spouse alliance was a stable subsystem.Theoriginal parental al
liance,especial mother and son, would be kept,but it's notnecessary to influen
ce the working of the second generation.If parental allianceor spouse alliance
werwnot stable in their relationship,each member ,especiallydaughter in-law,w
ould worry that her own alliance would be threatened by theother alliance.
Base on the results,discussion and suggestion were presented.