本研究欲瞭解原生家庭經驗對大學女生愛情關係的影響為何？以及當原生家庭經驗的影響阻礙了愛情關係的發展時，促發改變動機的原因是什麼？促發改變的內外在資源是什麼？改變的結果又是什麼？
研究者以實施自編之調查問卷及透過親友推薦，篩選出六位大學女生，邀請她們進行半結構式的深度訪談。訪談資料以Hycner(1985)的現象學的分析步驟為主，再加上將資料分析後呈現的主題繪製成脈絡圖，並對描述文進行詮釋分析。
研究結果發現，父母婚姻關係對受訪者愛情關係的影響是1.婚姻觀的形成、2.戀愛對象的選擇、3.愛情關係中信任感的建立、4.產生不重蹈父母覆轍的信念、5.重複原想避免的母親的表達方式、6.愛情關係中的權力分配、7.對愛情關係互動模式與對男友的期待。
親子關係對受訪者愛情關係的影響則是1.對愛情關係互動模式與對男友的期待：這來自於(1)父母充分保護與照顧的經驗、(2)父親可以仰賴與引導的形象、(3)母女黏密的相處經驗；2.形成愛情關係發展的阻礙：這來自於(1)過度黏結的母女關係、(2)受婚姻未解決問題干擾的親子功能；3.表達支持有助於愛情關係的發展。
受訪者的改變歷程分為三部份：1.改變動機促發原因：分為(1)內在自發原因，包含A.負面的情緒、B.自覺、C.維繫關係的意願；(2)外在刺激原因，包含A.男友的回饋、B. 父親的喜惡、C.愛情危機事件。2.促發改變發生的資源：分為(1)環境資源，包含A.信仰的支持、B.心理諮商的協助、C.輔導課程與相關書籍的涉獵、D.男友與同學的配合與提醒；(2)個人資源，包含A.自省與自制、B.勇氣與負責、C.堅持與執著、D.新的反應行為。3.改變的結果：(1)自信心、自我接納程度增加，(2)彈性與韌性增加，(3)愛情觀更踏實、愛情關係更穩定，(4)人際關係更好，(5)修通原生家庭經驗，(6)與父母心理分離。
根據本研究的結果與發現，研究者以1.原生家庭經驗對愛情關係的影響是歷程性的；2.外遇的負面影響既深且廣；3.黏密的母女關係對愛情關係有較多的影響；4.父親是選擇戀愛對象的參照對象；5.改變歷程的意義等提出討論。最後並於文末提供建議要點。

The purposes of this research were to explore how female college students‘ love relationships were influenced by the experiences resulted from their family-of-origin, and how they made changes in the love relationships of their own.
Six female college students were interviewed individually in this study. Hycner‘s (1985) phenomenological analysis methods were adopted in this study to analyze data collected from interviewes.
The findings of this research indicates that the parents‘ marital relationships influence female college students on the development of marriage ideation, the selecting of their partners, the establishing of the sense of trust in their love relationship, the belief of never repeating the false patterns of their parents’ marriage, the unavoidable repeating patterns of their mothers‘ style of expression, the distribution of power in their love relationship, and the expectation to the interacting patterns in the love relationship and to their boyfriends.
The influences from the parent-child relationship on the love relationships of female college students were exhibited on the three following dimensions.1)Their expectation to the interacting patterns in their love relationship and to their boyfriends. Those were resulted from the experiences of the fully protection and care provided by their parents, the image of a reliable and guiding father, and the enmeshed relationship between mothers and daughters; 2)It forms a blockage in the development of their love relationships, which came from the over enmeshed mother-daughter relationships, and the disturbed parent-child function caused by unresolved marital problems, and ;3) it is helpful to express the support to each other for the development of their intimate relationships.
The changing process of the interviewes were categorized into three dimensions. First, the reason of their motivation to change includes spontaneous factors, which include a) the nagative feelings, b)self awareness, and c)their willingness to keep a relationship, and also their fathers, and the critical incidents in their relationships. Secondly, the resource of the stimlants to their change include 1)environmental resources, such as the faith form thier religion, the help from psychological counseling, the studying of counseling related books, and the cooperation and reminder from their boyfiriends or classmateds;2)individual resources which include self-contemplation and self-retrain, their courage and responsibility, their persistence, and the establishing of their new interacting behaviors. The last one is the results of their change, which include10the increase of the degree of their self-confidence and self-acceptance,2)the increase of their flexibility and durability, 3)a more realistic ideation of love, and a firmer love relationship, 4)the increase of their interpersonal relationships, 5)working through their experiences of their family-of-origin, and the psychological separation with their parents.
According to the reluts and findings in this research, the author discussed 1) the procedural influence from the family-of-orign to female college students, 2) the profound impact of an extramarital affair, 3) the influence of an enmeshed mother-daughter relationship to the daughter‘s love relationship, 4) fathers as their reference object for daughters selecting their patterns, and 5) the meaning of changing process and so on in this study. Some suggestions were also provided at the end of this article.

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