論文題目: 新新新人類的友情與愛情:一班國小高年級學生的男女感情世界
本研究以民族誌的研究方法,探索兒童的男女感情世界.研究者花費九個月的時間,
實際參與一個國小六年級的班級生活,以觀察和訪談為資料蒐集的主要方式.研究目的
是想瞭解以下三方面:(1)以長期的觀察為基礎,思索男女學生敵對現象的社會文化因素
;(2)瞭解男女學生友誼發展的內涵;(3)瞭解男女學生感知的愛情以及對異性表達情愛
的方式與內涵.
研究發現,學生處於小班和男女混合編組的情境下,男女生之間比傳統班級有較多
的人際互動.但是男生和女生成為好朋友的現象並不普遍.從對兒童的訪談得知阻礙異
性友誼的因素有:慣常的性別區分,男女不一致的因素,對異性不瞭解,令人討厭的特質
,怕被同學消遣喜歡異性等等.儘管如此,大部分的同學還是認為男女生是有可能成為
好朋友的.另外,這個班級有62.5%的同學有過暗戀異性的經驗.欣賞的異性特質大多偏
向功課,個性,外表,特殊才華等.全班直接與異性談戀愛的同學只有一位,曾經透過電話
,書信,校園約會,逛教室等方式進行愛的連線.至於其他同學,曾經透過語言,書寫,閱讀
,動作等方式來傳達對於異性的情愛與性好奇.不過,女生大多偏向口說與書寫的方式;
而男生大多偏向閱讀與動作的方式.
根據以上發現,提出六點建議,供學校教師,學生家長以及教育行政單位參考:
(1)成人需尊重與關懷兒童的感情世界;(2)成人能拋棄傳統的性別刻板印象與男女授受
不親的觀念,並且平等地對待不同性別的兒童;(3)協助兒童真實地面對自己的感情問題
,並且培養解決兩性人際問題的能力;(4)營造兩性相處的情境,使兒童有機會對異性做
深入的瞭解,進而教導兒童以合禮的方式,尊重的態度與異性同學相處;(5)充實目前的
師資養成,教師在職進修與小學生兩性教育的課程與教材;(6)由於小班有助於兩性相處
與學生個別輔導,建議每班縮減至15-20人.

The researcher applies an ethnographic approach to expolre children's
perceptions and expressions of friendship and love in an elementary six
grade classroom. Using participant observation and interview as the two
major data collection methods,the researcher spent 9 months in this
classroom and participated in various activites.
It is found that there are a lot of interactions between boys and girls
in this "small" (as compared with typical class in Taipei) and "mix-sex"
grouping class. However,making good friends with the opposite sex is rare.
Facters contributing to this phenomenon includes: gender segregation,sex
differences,being lack of mutual understanding,unpleasant personality and
peer ridicule. In spite of these factors,children in this class think it
is possible that boys and girls make good friends with peers of the opposite
sex. In this class, 62.5% children reported that they had such experiences
of loving a peer of the opposite sex secretly. The attractive characters
of a "qualified" lover include: excellent academic performance,pleasant
personality,appearance and high skills in a specific area. There is only
one girl who claimed that she had been in love with a boy of other class. Her
ways of handing the loving relationship include writing letters,making phone
calls and strolling around with her boyfriend. Others express their love by
ways of talking about it among peer groups, writing letters,reading books,
and taking ingenious actions. Generally speaking,girls like to talk about,
discuss and write about about their love and loved ones; whereas boys tend
to read books and take actions to express their love.
The researcher offers the following suggestions based on the study:
(1)Adult should respect and be concerned with children's feeling; (2)Adult
should treat child of both sexes equally; (3)Teachers can cultivate children's
competence in handing interpersonal problems; (4)Boys and Girls should be
taught to treat peers of the opposite appropriately; (5)The curriculum of
gender education and teaching material should be enhance; (6)Small class size
and mix-sex grouping will increase children's interpersonal interactions, be
them of the same of the opposite sex.
The researcher applies an ethnographic approach to expolre children's